There are countless cases of people experiencing high blood pressure and even stomach problems because of all the physical and mental stress caused by excessive caring.You have to manage anxiety and worrying now because it's detrimental not only to your mental health, but also to your physical health.
The first step to analyze a problem effectively is getting your facts straight. Worried people are usually aware of some facts , but they have not collected all of the relevant data that will help them resolve the real problem. Let me reiterate that worrying in no way contributes to the resolution of a problem. When people are worried, they usually think of the worst that could happen when things get out of hand. They focus on that imaginary exit instead of the variables that they can still manipulate to solve the problem.
For example, if a man is deeply in debt, he constantly thinks of filing for bankruptcy and imagines himself homeless and bereft of his owned possessions. In his present state of mind, he promises that he is still strong, physically able, and quite capable of finding a new job that will help him pay off his debts. When people become extremely worried about something, they lose their natural ability to adapt to changing circumstances. A suspected person is also ready to 'fail' because worrying parallels his or her ability to act upon problems critically.
While individuals find it difficult to actually act upon problems, some people act without sufficient analysis. Acting without analyzing your problems can result in failures or unsatisfactory outcomes that can cause even more worrying. If you choose not to analyze your problems, you will remain worriedand confused because you only have your vague imaginings as your guide in solving the actual problem. To maintain your object while collecting facts about your problem, pretended that you're doing this for a friend or a family member. Pretend that the problem is not your problem. This usually helps people become objective.
After collecting all the facts you'll need to face the problem (and its consequences) directly, you can start analyzing the problem. Some people like taking notes. If you think this will help, go ahead and write the facts in a separate notebook or notepad. Once you've written down the facts of your problem, you have everything you will need to solve it. Every variable and component is already in front of you.
All that's left to do is to rearrange the variables until you arrive at the desired outcome. Having all the facts in front of you is like having puzzle pieces neatly arranged by shape and form. All you have to do now is to solve the puzzle. Now that you have all of the facts that you need, let's move on to the next step in the analysis phase: formulating solutions to the problem. Do this for each and every problem that you have. Analyze each one one separately and create lists of solutions for each problem. If you can create three or four different solutions for a severe problem, do it.
At this point, you're creating theoretical solutions. There's still a chance that you'll encounter failure as you implement your solutions. If one solution fails, move on to the next solution immediately. If all of your solutions fail, go back to the drawing board and think of alternative solutions until your problem is finally solved. Do not procrastinate when you are implementing different solutions to remedy a problem. If you want the worrisome days to end, you have to act on the problem immediately.
The following questions will help you analyze problems and implement solutions:
1) What exactly is bothering me right now? (Write down your problems on a piece of paper.)
2) What are my options? (Write down the various solutions you can think of.)
3) Which solutions will I be implementing immediately? (Choose the best solutions from your list of options.)
4) When will I implement the solutions? (Set a fixed time frame for implementation of the solutions so you'll avoid procrastination.)
If you are a business man, I have a special set of guide questions for you. These guide questions were designed to eliminate the circular and repetitive 'problem solving' trap that is common in conferences and meetings. They will also eliminate sleepless nights because with just one meeting you'll probably solve ninety percent of all your business-related problems. The following guide questions may sound too simple, but trust me, these questions work:
a) What is the problem right now?
b) What is causing the problem?
c) What are the possible solutions to this problem?
d) What solutions are being recommended by your employees or business partners?
e) What solutions are most likely to succeed? Which ones can be considered back up plans?
f) What is the final course of action?
g) When will the final course of action be implemented?